Ghanaian gospel musician Celestine Donkor has advised married women, particularly Christian wives, to prioritise intimacy as an important aspect of maintaining healthy marriages.
The award-winning singer made the comments in a video shared on Instagram, where she spoke about the emotional impact repeated rejection can have on husbands seeking affection from their spouses.
According to the ‘Akorfala’ hitmaker, one of the painful experiences for a married man is gathering the courage to approach his wife for intimacy, only to be turned away.
“One painful thing is for a husband to be in the mood to have sex with his wife, gather confidence and muscles to approach his wife in bed, only to be told ‘I am tired’ or ‘leave me.’ It is so painful. It makes the man angry the whole night,” she said.
Celestine Donkor noted that moments of intimacy can occur unexpectedly, including during the early hours of the morning, and stressed that repeated rejection from a spouse can create emotional distance in a marriage.
She questioned who a married man should seek intimacy from if his own wife consistently denies him affection.
“Excuse me, if your husband that has married you shouldn’t touch you, who should he go and have sex with?” she asked.
The gospel artiste further described it as unfortunate for a marriage to suffer due to a lack of intimacy, especially when couples are committed to each other.
She encouraged wives to be more receptive to their husbands’ needs, warning that consistently withholding affection could put unnecessary pressure on a relationship.
“If you don’t give it to your husband, who will you give it to? And I promise you, if you keep being stingy with your body towards your own husband, one day you will regret it. You will push a good man to the wall, to areas and to things you do not want to see,” she added.
Her remarks have since sparked discussions on social media, with some users agreeing that intimacy is a key component of marriage, while others emphasised the importance of mutual consent, emotional connection and open communication between spouses.
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